1) Be Impeccable with your language
- Speak with integrity
- Say only what you mean
- Avoid speaking against yourself or gossiping about others
2) Don’t take anything personally
- Nothing others do is because of you
- What others say and do is a projection of their own reality
- When you are immune to the opinions of others you will never be a victim
3) Don’t make assumptions
- Ask questions
- Express what you really want
- Communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings and needless drama
4) Always do your best
- Your best is going to change from moment to moment
- Under any circumstance, doing your best means you can avoid self-criticism, self-judgement and regret
5) Listen with all your senses
- Listen as though your life depends on it. If you are thinking about what you want to say next, then you’re not fully engaged in listening.
- If your ears are hearing one thing, but your eyes or your gut are receiving a different message, be brave enough to follow your instincts and challenge the words.
- Sometimes the message you hear is hiding the message that’s really important. Chase the real message, not the shadow.
Within a coaching culture, giving everyone the opportunity to make these five agreements with themselves will help free them of the tyranny of self-doubt and guilt.
Drawing attention to the language we use, both to others and to ourselves, gives us a chance to focus on positive ways of making our thoughts and feelings known and understood, which in turn helps create a positive mood.
Moving our self-talk out of the personal and into neutral territory is of huge benefit for personal wellbeing.
Keeping communication clear, and avoiding the pitfalls of assumption is a great way to speed up process and decision making among other benefits.
There is no such thing as 110%. Doing your best is the best you can do. Your best may be less good if you are unwell, but forcing yourself to try to do more is counter-productive. An athlete will do their best, and will strive to make that’